Living a life where you’re honoring the polarities of your sacred feminine & masculine means listening to your body & knowing how and when to take action, when to slow the hell down, knowing what you ACTUALLY need versus what you “think” you need (or what you’ve conditioned yourself to believe you need).
For example, I had all these plans for my business this year.
Then when I sat down to create, I felt…dry. Uninspired. Too in my head. Not excited. Absolutely blah.
First off, it wasn’t the content I REALLY wanted to create. It was “safer” (yuck, lol).
And I felt that.
It felt contrived. And boring. It wouldn’t even come out of me, actually.
Playing it safe is bullshit in the zone of
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and your shadows WILL come up to be integrated when it’s time to stop hiding.
So when I sat to write & it wouldn’t flow, instead of trying to force something else or get self-critical or shame-y about it, I asked what my feminine needed.
She needed more play. And pleasure.
So I spent a week completely surrendering to it.
I went out in the sun, wore less clothes, put on my favorite luxe fabrics, spent time at the pool, spent meditative time cooking for myself, got in the bath at 1pm just cuz with full ambiance, turned my phone off early at night, spent my own sensual time with myself making sexy playlists completely chilling out in the zone.
And you know what?
It felt f*king awesome. I felt alive again.
Because my feminine needed reconnection & honoring.
You’re not waiting on someone else to do this for you.
CLAIM IT. For yourself. Give yourself what you need. That’s power.
When we try to live from the neck up, we live numb.
Learning to allow healthy, sacred pleasure is a practice.
Taking time to simply BE in our sensuality is part of the embodiment practice.
When our polarities get ignored, we get cranky, achy & feel shit overall or nothing gets done & all our great ideas remain in the ethers instead of grounding in this dimension. Honoring both the yin & yang is essential.
The feminine needs flow, relaxation, sensuality. The masculine within us knows when to act & creates the safety, structure, the protection for the feminine to fully let down her guard &
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There are a lot of old stories that I’ve needed to clear around this, because trust me, I didn’t learn this growing up. It wasn’t role-modeled to me in any way. I saw people struggle with pleasure & use food or alcohol instead (then feeling shame).
I had to teach myself that pleasure is SAFE & NECESSARY.
When we absorb ancestral beliefs that pleasure is bad, dirty, shameful, wrong, lazy, taboo – of course you’re going to subconsciously resist it or guilt yourself for wanting it.
Except you need it.
And you’re craving it.
PLEASURE IS YOUR BIRTHRIGHT. xx